Go Live Your Life

I know... I know... I haven't written in two weeks. I find myself currently in Milwaukee, (Hello Wisconsin! You're very windy!) just finishing up a 12 hour work/travel day, having just shut my laptop after responding to what seems like a bazillion emails.. and, now that the work day is done, I need to get something off of my chest. But bare with me, I'm loopy... I've been up and on the road since 4am. Two airports, many hours of coffee, knitting and angry people... you've been warned.
ETA: it was three airports. I'm just realizing this, three and a half hours after posting... see? SO. TIRED.

Today would have been my 14th wedding anniversary. (Also the 14th anniversary of a dear friend getting arrested the night of my wedding... which she texted me about this morning.... but that's a story for another day.) Instead, I was divorced 7 years and one month ago. I filed for divorce from my ex-husband when I found out that he was living a dual life- he had another woman, another house, another dog... the details aren't important, but what is important is that he was not happy. He was not happy in our marriage, and so, when that devastating moment hit me like a ton of bricks, I got a lawyer and I filed for divorce. I didn't want to be in a relationship with someone who did not want to be with me. I did not want to be with someone who was not happy sharing their life with me. So I got divorced.  I was very hurt. I was very angry. I was very bitter.. but I have learned so much since then.  Being on the other side of it now, where I've been divorced for as long as I was married, I can honestly say that I wish my Ex-Husband and his new Wife a lifetime of happiness together. (I also wish they had both handled the situation with the grace and kindness it deserved.. but we don't get to choose how people hurt us.  That's why it hurts so much.) We all deserve to be happy. Don't forget, however, that we all deserve respect, too. So this is my advice to the world - if you are no longer in a relationship with someone you once loved, just let that person move on with their life. Your anger, your resentment, your jealousy does not look good on you. If you have moved on with your life, let them move on with theirs. The best revenge is a life well-lived. Go live your life.

I hope to get back to my weekly blog posts this weekend.... but I've got a whole lot of life to live with a bunch of people I love.. so... we will see.